Empty Arms
Pregnancy Loss happens every 20 minutes. Every 20 minutes another Mother, Father, and family faces the unimaginable pain of pregnancy loss. Miscarriage in all its forms, a baby born still, or the loss of a child soon after birth. If the reason you are here is because this is happening to you now, or has happened recently, or even in the past, you have found a safe space to help you through this pain. I cannot imagine the pain you are going through, but I will listen and
sit with you. |
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In 2014 I was studying to become a Chaplin. A class showed up in my inbox, and the voice in my heart said take this class. The class was Holding Space for Pregnancy Loss, my plan was to work with hospice patients, I won’t need this class my head said. Heart won, and I took the class. Soon after I was asked to see a new hospice patient. Her name was Margaret. She was 89 years old and totally alone in the world. As we were getting acquainted, she asked me what I was doing with my life. I told her about school and the class I had just finished on pregnancy loss. Margaret started to cry, I asked her to tell me about her tears. She told me about her beautiful baby girl, her baby was born still when she was 20. She remembered every finger, every toe, every curl. Margaret had not talked about her baby with anyone since that day - 69 years before.
Many women keep their secrets, and their sorrow, taking it with them when they die. I have read that sometimes sisters don’t even know about each other’s losses.
After Margaret, I was changed. I went back several times to see Margaret again, and never found her – there are no accidents. She was there to help me understand the pain of your loss. I am humbled by the number of women who share Margaret’s story. More and more women have come into my life with similar stories. Every story is told with tears, and with the absolute detail of an event that happened yesterday. |