Meet Lorane Wilson
Welcome,
I am a woman that has been blessed with a very full life. Full of joy, love, and curiosity. I am also a woman that has lived through loss, heartbreak, and the darkest of dark nights of the soul. I have been blessed with family and friends that have been my greatest teachers. Some easy to love, and some works in progress.
I am a woman that has been blessed with a very full life. Full of joy, love, and curiosity. I am also a woman that has lived through loss, heartbreak, and the darkest of dark nights of the soul. I have been blessed with family and friends that have been my greatest teachers. Some easy to love, and some works in progress.
My career path has taken me deep into the body through massage and deep into the heart with Grief Recovery work. What I know is true, is that all these experiences, good, bad, and ugly have brought me here – to this work of heart.
I decided it was time for a career change and with much thought and meditation I started a path to Chaplaincy. As I took the pre-requisite classes I realized that the healer needed to heal herself. As I started reviewing my life, a new clarity began to unfold. As I looked at my relationships, I was surprised to see the patterns I had unknowingly created. In the fall of 1970, I was pregnant with my first daughter. My husband was in the Navy and receiving new orders weekly for active duty. We decided that I should live with my parents until his discharge in April. Never would I have guessed this would be a blessing in disguise. My daughter was born at the end of October. |
In the Spring, Dad was not feeling well and was diagnosed with lung cancer. I was shocked and totally unprepared to lose my Dad. As my family moved through the tasks of caregiving and preparing for this change, I began facing my first big loss. I remember being afraid to talk to him, being afraid that mentioning cancer would remind him that he was sick - now I see the lost opportunity for connection. The night Dad died, I was at the store. When I returned, he had died. During the next few hours, my husband came and picked up our daughter, my siblings arrived, and my Dad was picked up by the Mortuary.
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This was a surreal time – a lonely time. I needed to be strong for my Mother, and, I was flooded with emotions that were new and raw. When I finally went home that night it was to a dark house, a sleeping husband and no one to share this loss with.
The next few days were full of funeral arrangements, a viewing, and then the closing of the casket. I was filled with shock and disbelief that he was gone. As the casket was closed, the finality hit me. I would never be able to say the things I wanted to say, ask the questions I wanted to ask…
The next few days were full of funeral arrangements, a viewing, and then the closing of the casket. I was filled with shock and disbelief that he was gone. As the casket was closed, the finality hit me. I would never be able to say the things I wanted to say, ask the questions I wanted to ask…
After, my life resumed at full speed. I did not know how to grieve, I just knew I had so much sadness and no skills to heal my broken heart. |
This loss became the beginning of my loss story – I finally found the help I desperately needed when I was in my 60’s. A valuable lesson that time does not heal all wounds, and way too long to carry such a heavy burden.
The what-ifs of finding help sooner will never really be answered. The fact that you are seeking help in dealing with emotional pain is not a sign of weakness, but rather a recognition on your part that you are interested in taking recovery action. Make this the day you stop hurting and start the healing.
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Contact me here to start moving forward on your journey.
My training is listed below:
2020 – Stillbirthday Doula and Bereavement training
2017- Grief Recovery Institute – Certified Grief Recovery Specialist
2017 – INELDA Death Doula training
2015-2017 Centers for Spiritual Living – Licensed Spiritual Practitioner
2020 – Stillbirthday Doula and Bereavement training
2017- Grief Recovery Institute – Certified Grief Recovery Specialist
2017 – INELDA Death Doula training
2015-2017 Centers for Spiritual Living – Licensed Spiritual Practitioner