Meet Lorane Wilson
Welcome,
I am a woman that has been blessed with a very full life. Full of joy, love, and curiosity. I am also a woman that has lived through loss, heartbreak, and the darkest of dark nights of the soul. I have been blessed with family and friends that have been my greatest teachers. Some easy to love, and some works in progress.
I am a woman that has been blessed with a very full life. Full of joy, love, and curiosity. I am also a woman that has lived through loss, heartbreak, and the darkest of dark nights of the soul. I have been blessed with family and friends that have been my greatest teachers. Some easy to love, and some works in progress.
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My career path has taken me deep into the body through massage and deep into the heart with Grief Recovery work. What I know is true, is that all these experiences, good, bad, and ugly have brought me here – to this work of heart.
I decided it was time for a career change and with much thought and meditation I started a path to Chaplaincy. As I took the pre-requisite classes I realized that the healer needed to heal herself. As I started reviewing my life, a new clarity began to unfold. As I looked at my relationships, I was surprised to see the patterns I had unknowingly created. In the fall of 1970, I was pregnant with my first daughter. My husband was in the Navy and receiving new orders weekly for active duty. We decided that I should live with my parents until his discharge in April. Never would I have guessed this would be a blessing in disguise. My daughter was born at the end of October. |
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In the Spring, Dad was not feeling well and was diagnosed with lung cancer. I was shocked and totally unprepared to lose my Dad. As my family moved through the tasks of caregiving and preparing for this change, I began facing my first big loss. I remember being afraid to talk to him, being afraid that mentioning cancer would remind him that he was sick - now I see the lost opportunity for connection. The night Dad died, I was at the store. When I returned, he had died. During the next few hours, my husband came and picked up our daughter, my siblings arrived, and my Dad was picked up by the Mortuary.
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This was a surreal time – a lonely time. I needed to be strong for my Mother, and, I was flooded with emotions that were new and raw. When I finally went home that night it was to a dark house, a sleeping husband and no one to share this loss with.
The next few days were full of funeral arrangements, a viewing, and then the closing of the casket. I was filled with shock and disbelief that he was gone. As the casket was closed, the finality hit me. I would never be able to say the things I wanted to say, ask the questions I wanted to ask…
The next few days were full of funeral arrangements, a viewing, and then the closing of the casket. I was filled with shock and disbelief that he was gone. As the casket was closed, the finality hit me. I would never be able to say the things I wanted to say, ask the questions I wanted to ask…
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After, my life resumed at full speed. I did not know how to grieve, I just knew I had so much sadness and no skills to heal my broken heart. |
This loss became the beginning of my loss story – I finally found the help I desperately needed when I was in my 60’s. A valuable lesson that time does not heal all wounds, and way too long to carry such a heavy burden.
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The what-ifs of finding help sooner will never really be answered. The fact that you are seeking help in dealing with emotional pain is not a sign of weakness, but rather a recognition on your part that you are interested in taking recovery action. Make this the day you stop hurting and start the healing.
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Contact me here to start moving forward on your journey.
My training is listed below:
2020 – Stillbirthday Doula and Bereavement training
2017- Grief Recovery Institute – Certified Grief Recovery Specialist
2017 – INELDA Death Doula training
2015-2017 Centers for Spiritual Living – Licensed Spiritual Practitioner
2020 – Stillbirthday Doula and Bereavement training
2017- Grief Recovery Institute – Certified Grief Recovery Specialist
2017 – INELDA Death Doula training
2015-2017 Centers for Spiritual Living – Licensed Spiritual Practitioner
